5 Tips to Reconnect with Old Mates

By Pratty

1. Pick Up the Phone — Literally

It sounds obvious, but I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve thought, “I should call him…” and then let weeks slip by.

The easiest way to reconnect is just to reach out. A simple:

• “Hey mate, been a while. Want to grab a beer?”

• “Saw this local club game is on this weekend and thought of you — you in?”

No pressure, no long messages. Just a nudge. You’d be surprised how many mates are waiting for someone else to make the first move — maybe you.

2. Plan Something You Both Enjoy

When I first tried to reconnect with my footy mates, I didn’t invite them to a serious strategy meeting — I invited them to play.

Shared experiences work better than long conversations over text. Think:

• Shooting hoops at the park

• Beach cricket

• A Sunday footy game or social comp

• A casual catch-up over a beer

It’s easier to reconnect when there’s a bit of action and laughs involved.

3. Start Small — Don’t Overthink It

Reconnection doesn’t have to be some big production. A small gesture can have a huge impact:

• Send a meme you know they’ll love

• Drop a message about a shared memory

• Invite them to a low-key coffee or lunch

You don’t need the perfect words or a detailed life update. Just show up. That’s what counts.

4. Be Honest — Share a Bit About Yourself

One thing I’ve learned is that opening up makes it easier for the other bloke to do the same.

When I told an old mate I’d been feeling stretched with work, family, and life in general, he opened up too. We laughed, vented, and swapped stories. It wasn’t heavy — it was real.

Honesty doesn’t have to be intense; just enough to remind your mate that he’s not the only one juggling life.

5. Keep It Consistent — It’s About Showing Up

Reconnection isn’t always a one-time event. Sometimes it takes a few tries. Some mates will respond immediately, others might take weeks.

The key is consistency:

• Regular catch-ups, even if short

• Quick check-ins over text or calls

• Invitations to group activities

Showing up repeatedly sends a clear message: I care. I’m here.

Bonus Tip: Include New Mates Too

While reconnecting with old mates is amazing, don’t forget that your circle can grow. Invite someone new along — maybe a colleague, neighbour, or someone you met at a social comp. Expanding your tribe keeps the energy fresh and introduces more shared experiences.

Final Thoughts

Reconnecting with old mates doesn’t have to be awkward or complicated. Start small, be genuine, share a laugh, and show up.

Sometimes, it’s just about a simple kick of the footy, a coffee, or a quick chat after work. But that small effort can spark big changes — laughter, stories, support, and the kind of connection that reminds you why mateship matters.

So pick up the phone. Lace up your boots. Send that message. Your mates — and your next chapter — are waiting.

Next Chapter Mates Real talk. Real mateship. Real life.[Read the full guide: The Ultimate Guide to Reconnecting with Mates After 30]